You are bright and very logical as well as caring . i will drop his email address in case you are passing through the same situation so you can contact him on (((((Ekpentemple at gmail. Hes all yes. Nothing. Another way to tell is to suggest getting someone to pray over them, I bet they will like hell! he really believe he get full custody after doing what he did to me.but I focused fully on our daughter.and myself and they comeback when you doing good. Always ready to use, to try to keep me there and doing what he wanted. Mine has a New Supply, he started cheating with her just before we broke up. A psychological evaluation was conducted during our last custody case and he was found to have a Personality Disorder with narcissistic, paranoid, and anti-social traits. So I told her Im moving out after one of her big wobbly. The word Pornography is not a curse word last I checked. Mine also brainwashed the spirits of my sweet sweet children, and to see that happen hurts more than the destroying of my own soul and spirit. Such a great post everything you said, just happened and by me googling my question and your website coming up with this article. aliens. I never had a healthy relationship ever and I am 45years old..but its never to late to love yourself. A week. Think back to all the signs you will see more now after research. When I I type this I think what an idiot I was, but Im not an idiot I was so in love with this man I would put up with it he would get in my head. They want to destroy others to feel good about themselves. I knew my narc for many years in the City we live in. This article is so spot on. I blocked him 8 months ago on my phone and he still managed to leave me 40 voicemails! The story they spew during the breakup will probably be far from the truth as they attempt to save face. Well he never saw our son until he was 8 months old. Stay strong they r all the same all narcs have the same patterns they r pathetic! Until you have dealt with someone with a NPD, you dont know how these ppl do things..they are not normal! Narcissists may respond either particularly well or particularly poorly to breakups. Take the time to Know yourself, Value yourself, have CONFIDENCE in yourself. I told her I thought she was a narcissist after all of the behavior and reading it up online and talking to friends that are psych majors. It didnt take long before he convinced me that he loved me and he was going to get his divorce and he asked me to marry him. While she was cursing him out, he just listenedhe didnt hang up like I would have done. It is terrible. I couldnt. How to Keep Her Interested Over Text: Texting Dos And Dont, The Right Way to Compliment a Girls Eyes. Do whatever it takes to protect yourself and your child from this sicko. I did not know you should never try to expose them, this makes you an enemy to them. After a week of ignoring me! It was the anniversary of my moms passing. But the arguing would still continue & then it would be me to just back down then they would come back they had me always questioning myself during the course of the arguments they would change there reasons as to why we were arguing half a dozen time was far from consistant & I couldnt follow what was really going on complete head game!!! Whether the narcissist will return after you institute no contact is the most pressing concern, at least initially. I could not pay for a private investigator so i decided to confront her myself and ask her about the messages on her computer and like instantly she came out clean but i wished i never asked her because it was like she needed me to see those messages in the first place. One day i do believe God will be the answer. I know you can do it! He just wanted to know what happened and she just ignored him. I speak from experience. Bites me and then leaves. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. However the guilt somehow is eating me up. Narcissists thrive on your confusion because it gives them control over whats true. My narc has just left me two weeks ago , well I initiated the break up because I had no choice , I have been going out of my mind with pain and suffering while he goes on his merry way , no explanations no empathy no guilt just silence . long story short he got me arrested then bail him his mum n sis. U all are brave ladies and am praying for us all. When the ob announced that my baby was a boy my babys dad said, A boy! He of course would NOT talk to me about it. I care for you baby I love you baby. Fug you I hate you why did you HURT me?. For weeks not a word I feel heart broken. after the last argument they ended the relationship yet again broke my heart!!! Ask for their help, get your feet under you, surround yourself with real friends, keep bringing good decent people into your life, change your thinking, force yourself it will take some time, and you will be tired, you will cry uncontrollably at times, but be kind to yourself and keep forcing yourself forwardyou will find You. Long distance relationship, we went on holiday and on the 3rd day found out he was hiding a serious STD from me!! We cant make sense of it because we dont think/feel like they do. The drug that shes using is just as worse as alcohol, weed, cocaine, heroin, ext. my advice is get your head straight FOCUS on your child NOT HIM my ex did the same to me with head games stay smart work with local authorities if involved document your childs behaviour any marks injury tiredness apprance when coming bk from dad. Im not proud of my outbursts, but it all could have been solved with a phone call! They lack whole object relations and object constancy. I know what its like to live with someone with NPD, its awful! I have nobody I can talk to this man has really hurt me I hate him and I wish him harm. What does a narcissist do when you try to leave them? Never did he say he was sorry or acknowledge that these arguments could be because he didnt respect me, he would tell me that Im upset for no good reason. Awh, sweet justice. And they still waby you to live with them? She told him he was a pathetic piece of Shit, that he was just calling her because he wanted me back & I was the best thing he ever hadyada yada yada. Its almost a year since Ive had those rings and we have never discussed the wedding. I had difficulty getting the courts to understand the behavior exhibited from these traits and how that behavior impacts my children. I was literally a broken. Its during my birthday. old. He always got what he wanted from any beauty that capture his eye. But I will get on with my life. I have been in much counseling and had made great strides in recovery and becoming someone many had seen As one who was over coming Many devastating obstacles in my life! I saw it on his pc. I got my wife to love just the way i wanted and i loved her just how she wanted. The dr looked at him like he was a freak and asked, Why does it matter? You're unappreciative of all they have done for you. Feed me all this crap s perfect say. Only because its fun to predict his actions and counter them, leaving him frustrated and leaving (This has happened twice). Im so sorry this happened to youand I cant imagine the angst you must feel. I have been rejected by my husband after 5 years of marriage just because another woman had evil spell on him and he left me and the kids to suffer. I couldnt function, or make sense of life or what had happened between us. He is. So if you're ending a relationship with a narcissist, you may find them either especially nonchalant about the breakup or especially upset. With me, he was literally just as mad or worse, 14 yrs later, than he was the day I left him! He gets to do nothing but drink. Because I am a strong willed person & when I didnt agree with them the argument would always esculate to where they would end the relationship. Dr Mack is the best caster Ive seen thus far, whoever need help to get his or her lover in a perfect way should try to contact Dr_Mack@yahoo. Theyre comfortable in your toxic relationship, so its always easier to come back rather than find someone new. So after 11 months, I am proof that the Ns dont always come back. I have been so unbelievably hurt at how LITTLE this breakup has affected him. What intrigued me or got my attention about your post is the fact that you mentioned Pornography! No man buy a new car for his separated wife that is telling him she is going to move out. He had me call up my landlord and give 30 days. Could it be that she knows he is a lying cheating ass and shes worried he might want to come back? God keep us from such people is all i can say. So. My roommate was like dude he needs to call before he shows up. I became anxious and nervous and paranoid to what he was doing and were he was. I was so alone and wanted to die..thankfully the lord showed me the answer . Lots of things happened and we took a trip together with girls including her ex. why? Yes I get lonely but nothing will make me give in ever again! Only recently discovered what NPD is after having found out that I was raised by NPD mother. My boys do not show her a lot of respect due to the way she talks to them. My ex & I met while working in the ministry for crying out loud! im finding all these posts so hard to read as currently going through similar in my 3 year relationship he has smashed up my car and house wanted a baby forced me to move into his house from my own when pregnant or would dump me. He yelled at me, called me selfish, a baby killer and many horrific names, because he was prolife. All the articles I read say that we should expect contact, but I havent heard from my narcissistic ex since I ended the relationship three months ago. And feel worthless He starts lieing aboth where hes at taking off. But I will never reapond to him ever again! Heres the kicker: why do men tend to move on to someone who you might consider beneath you? I think a lot of younger women get in relationships with older narcissistic men because many of them look younger than their age and many, my friend in particular lies about his age. Now I see these were his sources just as I was. He filed for divorce, he wouldnt/didnt move out of the house, he closed all accts and left me with no financial support, despite our having three children living in the home, etc. When I would try to leave he would tell me I was a horrible mother. Well I should have known better. You can;t get him out. He would never write or leave a note on my car or front door. What wowed me was that my wife, fell for him and decided to put at stake everything we have fought and worked for all those 14 years. Video him verbally assaulting you. To God be the glory our relationship is now very tight and we both live happily again. They'll shower their partners with flattery, affection and gifts, but once the commitment is made, things start to go downhill fast. He told me he would take me ring shopping and we would settle down and have a baby together. He never would except any blame for anything, including cheating, beating me and raping me.He never fought to get me to come back because he wanted to make something good happen out of all the bs, NO..he wanted me to kiss his ass, do whatever he said..and not ever think he was wrong about anything.This is not normal behavior, its not a normal relationship..hes not normal! I noticed that as time passed, I truly felt grateful and, positive every day. Stop obsessing sleep support+ Shes with him now on visitation for Christmas this,year. I chose to keep my baby. He calls and one minute all of a sudden he wants marriage counseling and hes coming to get his family, then the next minute he wants a divorce, or everything that has happened is my fault. Being a whore ? After years I found out I was one of 20-50 girls that the N is spinning around. Narcissists love you at your best. Weve gone through this a few times and now that he lives here it makes it a million times harder to get him out. Paul, I can really see where the problem here lies. Its safe to say that the longer youre in a relationship with a narcissist, the longer youll have to wonder will the narcissist come back after dumping you?. No, anything good in him, was for sure a lie, a fake.It would disappear soon after you spent a little time with him.It just made me think, how he must have been putting on a show, after I left himrunning my name down. Any sort of compromise on their part will be seen as defeat. I know to stay strong and hang on. I wish it was only a dream. Be empowered. If I didnt I was subjected to emotional abuse that eventually began to turn physical. People with high levels of narcissistic admiration experienced less anxiety and sadness after a breakup and maintained positive perceptions of their exes. We should get married. They(he) do not want you. Continue. I saw him text to different girls right after we had had sex (him unknowing), girls he knew, + his girlfriend + he went on a dating site and I believe he texted a man (!) I didnt know whether she has a problem or whether I am really never good enough for her. Shitshows at the bar, parking lots, in the car. Out of nowhere he surprisingly left me to be with another girl, so i met a friend who gave me this Tel +1 (971)-512-6745) of this spell caster Robinson, he stays in USA, so contacted him because i was so heartbroken and dont know what to do with myself but after 3 days of contacting Mr Robinson , my lover came back to me. And for Christmas I get him gifts that cost a lot he asks for. A couple of years ago a friend of mine introduced me to different types of personality disorder which caused me to sorta wake up from the spell. I was mad at her but she told me that now my ex husband is in the pic, I dont need anyone. Iv been almost 4 months now an I still hav my bad days but its going away. shes happy with dad too but we all know the risk now posed. This was after he told me he was taking me to terminate, and he instead took me to a prolife clinic in which showed me slide shows and pictures and terrible images of aborted fetus. All of them are horrible, strangely very predicable once you begin to read about predators they follow distinct patterns of repeating & escalating abuse. Anyway, so I tried to talk to his mother, she was NOT hearing anything. (5) You want to be rich. If I break the No Contact rule in any way shape or form it will feed his addiction, I will have become supply again. I lived the exact same situation in a boomerang for 5-years. I thought to myself can someone be this outright disordered in his thinking or was it done deliberately as punishment since I cut him off for 7 months? Lets start new. As soon as he left he has been spiteful and nasty to me and the kids. good luckfrom what I read Ur an amazing mum get Ur son back xxx, HI THERE I WAS PRECISELY THROUGH THE SAME BUT HE FOUND A 48YR OLD SHE DOESNT WANT TO LEAVE ME ALONE SENDING ME MESSAGES ALL THE TIME THREATENING ME AND TELLING ME HOW BAD I AM SO BAD THAT I CANT TRUST PEOPLE DONT HAVE THE COURAGE FOR A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE OF HIS LIES AND DECEITFULL WAYS I AM TORN APART AND HOW DO ONE HEAL YOUR SOUL EVEN I FEEL GOD LEFT ME. I went through a situation this time last year where my ex narc seperated me and our child by using my reaction to his abuse. Well a few weeks went by, I found out I was pregnant. Keep on with the NC strictly. They gave me their best professional and personal advise and I returned with these tools in hand and implemented them, and sure enough they were right. Meet Cordae, How I Saved Grocery Money By Dating (Yes, Really), Miley & Liams Relationship Timeline Hit Me Like A Wrecking Ball, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. I set my boundary and cut my losses early. I am tired and want to get out of this world . 1) It will feel sudden and brutal If they're breaking up with you, it will feel like a car crash you didn't see coming. What do I get ? She came back to wish me happy birthday in May and I called her and told her not to mess with my head.. she said she promises that there will be no more tears. Its exhausting. Hi Karen, You have just described me. By the grace of god I went to college for 12 years and have a great career .i let him back in our lives 6 years ago as he convinced me he had found god. There is a high likelihood that they will come back to you at some point. Its all about evil versus good they are evil , they want what you have and they cant have it they resent you for it and thankfully too stupid to realize that kids grow up and see things quite clearly. I dont know anybody. I am very catholic, however I noticed many things about him that were alarming. I moved 400 miles away..He cant bother me because he cant contact me ..So yes no contact and not letting them know where you are is the only way to be safe from a Narcissist person. Essentially, narcissists will return to old relationships repeatedly until that former partner no longer gives them what they desireattention. He is 84 years old and still screwing like hes 18 because he hasnt worked a day in 45 years. I was a part of a narcassists life for 28 years. I returned home but didnt tell her that I went away. Ive been in a relationship with a 36 year old N and Im 28. I live in those 2 rooms. I dont think Im a terrible person, I did not ask for a disorder that does not feel emotions. She was or maybe even still is the perfect girl for me. there were up and downs.. mostly it was hell. As time went on, he went through the entire pregnancy with me, rubbed my feet, took me to appointments, brought me what I craved, and did everything a babys father was supposed to do. So I was resigned to leave him after all this time after all the crap lies and crazy I have delt with So he begs me to go in a trip with him I do He asked me to marry him. I was raised by a Malignant Narcissistic Mother who suffered every symptom on the list and more. At one point I really believed that I was married to Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. We talked once before I had the baby, I was in the hospital, he said, Ya my moms in the hospital too. I thought is so strange that a 40 year old man would be more concerned with his mom being in the hospital than his babys mom. Time to leave me alone. Im running out of ways to win. In a way, this kind of breakup is a narcissist's cry for help that they're not getting what they want out of the relationship (admiration, sex, control). It was like warring with no end. Do t see him as tempting as it can be! He had planned on playing the victim role, as usualbut that didnt work out for him that time. That men are being emotionally abused in this area With virtually no help to understand what could be happening to them . They are dangerous to your soul. Since doing do I have been blessed to accomplish so much that I was not able to do in this marriage. Not learning his language. And to wait for him hes thinking. But I removed him from my life, finally. He had completely ignored my requests for a phone call right before a trip he went on. Ask for forgiveness for anything you feel youve sinned on, ask for strength, give your pain over to Christ, and also praise him for giving you the love of your life, your son. One night, while I was on Vacation from school, my roommates and I were all drinking and smoking lots of ganja, he called me claiming he was in the neighborhood. They are very self-centered. He immediately emailed me asking if I was 100% sure it was over. He asked me why I would want to do such a thing. The courts have ordered individual parenting counseling but the course clearly states that it doesnt work when mental illness is a factor. That just wasnt me but I slowly adapted to that b/c I thought thats what u did for your spouse. I was with one for 4 years married to him for 2 years. Those in narcissistic rivalry, on the other hand, tended to view their ex-partners especially negatively. But most of us who have lived with a N for a long time, whether we are still engaged of recovered, dont need to focus on how the N feels. 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