She never said no to hanging out when we are out, but she didn't say no, either. I know she would. We have a lot of mutual friends and maybe that's her way of moving on. You are not alone. Her: Again I thought you should knowSorry If I confused you or bothered you. All four of those things could not out weigh how much he values you. And I got really mad, saying that I felt like she used me, I felt like a two-year crutch. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. Some of our partners may process your data as a part of their legitimate business interest without asking for consent. Personally, the unannounced showing up of an ex is UNFORGIVEABLE. This is a tough call dude. What else is new, huh? Nothing ever seems cut and dry in this department. She obviously has some issues to work out on h By recap what everyone said.. i think she relized what a good bf u were and how well u treated her.. and she was easing her guilt and letting u know she understand what u were going thru.. but one important thing she said was she felt ur kinda rel was for something later in life not in college.. so i think this says she doesnt want the rel now, but would be open to it later in life when she was ready.. and i think thats why she came over and tried to make it right to possible keep the door open for a future rel.. Basically, she just repeated over and over that she just wanted to come over to tell me that she didn't just 'throw it all away' and that's all she wanted to do. Started Friday at 07:51 AM, By Just two days ago he said he never wants to see me again. Ooph suddenly so thankfully that BM has a big mouth about me behind my back but is so intimidated she doesnt even want to see me. That went over well. I did when she was overseas. Something triggered this emotional reaction from her. I do this too. Im constantly trying not to get my hopes up but I still do Its also a constant battle to stay NC especially after today. Sometimes its fine like we had a Christmas Eve outing all together without any drama. I provided all of her emotion support, I always paid when we went out, etc. Her: Again, I thought you should know how I feel about everything. She said that she never knew what it was like to be alone and she's learning that now. I do wish I thought that would work Ive often told her that she can reach me if she needs but she refuses to because its his responsibility even though Ive been here for 3 years of the the childs 5 years on this earth. He mentioned names Id never heard of. So immediately, I'm skeptical. It takes a lot for a person to do intead of just texted like a little girls do. She's crazy. I had called once andher maid answered and I spoke her native language. Just seems suspicious to me. That's something I've corrected on my own with these new girls who I've been dating. Ice queen should applaud her she got balls. Also, she was very codependant on me. He was busy taking care of a sick child and not at his phone and HCBM decided it was a good idea to drive to our house because she was worried with her own mother in tow as a witness I assume all because she didnt get an update for a few hours. She is blocked from everything possible . I'm actually dating a lot of different girls, but I didn't tell her about this. Its difficult because him turning up was a reaction to my NC I think. 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He didn't and was using her). Then we left and as he was walking he started getting increasingly angry again started calling me names again and started telling me he was on the internet all night looking at my myspace/facebook/blogs and saying he saw "all the guys i talk to". She left crying at one point, saying that she just couldn't take it. I imagine she is hurting and needs you to give her a "fix" first instinct is run! 3 weeks later I caught her. Should this be cause for concern in my relationship? Started Thursday at 10:00 PM, By Did you lose yourself in this relationship? Stalks the house, finds doors locked, calls, comes by unannounced, multiple times per day, dont care what, when, how or who. I was worried and let a member of his family know that he had turned up. Also why the emotional break down in front of you? Keep strong and don't expect anything. What gives her the right to do something like that man? Very worried. The more I told her that was all my feelings were too intertwined and honestly do not want our life together. 10,798 views Jul 29, 2022 895 Dislike Share Save 420 Scene 56.6K subscribers I showed up at a fans house completely unannounced. .ehsOqYO6dxn_Pf9Dzwu37{margin-top:0;overflow:visible}._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu{height:24px}._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu.uMPgOFYlCc5uvpa2Lbteu{border-radius:2px}._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu.uMPgOFYlCc5uvpa2Lbteu:focus,._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu.uMPgOFYlCc5uvpa2Lbteu:hover{background-color:var(--newRedditTheme-navIconFaded10);outline:none}._38GxRFSqSC-Z2VLi5Xzkjy{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-actionIcon)}._2DO72U0b_6CUw3msKGrnnT{border-top:none;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText);cursor:pointer;padding:8px 16px 8px 8px;text-transform:none}._2DO72U0b_6CUw3msKGrnnT:hover{background-color:#0079d3;border:none;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-body);fill:var(--newCommunityTheme-body)} By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. I say to her that I heard X,Y, and Z about this ex-boyfriend (from three years ago who she dated for 3 months and he dumped her; I was told that they were hanging out and she wanted to get back together. We and our partners use data for Personalised ads and content, ad and content measurement, audience insights and product development. Parents make mistakes too. Bad bad idea. At the time, we agreed to split up and take some time to work on ourselves. Yeah, I was pretty pissed off when she told me that she was standing outside of my door. Ex turned up outside my house this morning. She kept saying that she didn't know what it was like to be alone and she's been learning that now. But then she'd test me by saying stuff like 'Well, you don't have to see me again' or 'Sorry for bothering you'. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I pretty much let it go this morning and feel back to normal now. It's like she can't be happy for herself so she has to let someone else down. Please I need advice. I think the consensus, OP, is: don't do it. I guess I'm just disappointed in myself for even opening the door for her. We and our partners use cookies to Store and/or access information on a device. What do you think? I understand this. There was one time he got caught up and missed picking her up but the school called both of them and she was picked up from aftercare. This is obviously the wrong forum to post in, but I figured I'd get the most views here. Theres nothing that would make this illegal in an employment law sense (like a law saying that your employer cant show up at your house), but its certainly possible that its illegal in a more general sense, like if he violated disorderly conduct laws or something like that. He says I must have slept with them all. Boyfriends alarms go off for up to 3 hours on and off Boyfriend challenged me to make an "I Scream Sundae" Boyfriend's Mom gave me this sad boy. she rarely smoked cigarettes but in those 3 weeks I saw that she had smoked a lot of cigarettes. A former candidate for the state legislature was arrested Monday for allegedly orchestrating the shootings at the homes of local Democratic officials. The same is true with family members. Or, if they must come in make sure that you dont make a habit of stopping everything you are doing in its tracks to sit down and host their unannounced visit. If you continue with your chores, or sit back down at your computer to work they will eventually get the point. She has a lot of issues to work on and you don't want to go there, nor can you help her out. Otherwise, he's just going to keep throwing it up in your face. I hope for her own sake that she's on her own now. I did that too. Just wanted you to know.". .s5ap8yh1b4ZfwxvHizW3f{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText);padding-top:5px}.s5ap8yh1b4ZfwxvHizW3f._19JhaP1slDQqu2XgT3vVS0{color:#ea0027} He either needs to believe you and move on with you, or not believe you and end it once and for all. Best of luck! Or you'll have her really messing with your emotions. I know, I told him to pick up after we've spent seven years which spanned from college and have always been very quiet. Tjeesh. He does not have the right to show up unannounced and call you a liar and make accusations. What's your gut tell you? This is an act of stalking. I don't want anyone showing up at my house at 7am unannounced, especially my ex. It was discussed and both decided to have her just stay put. Why are you ignoring me, etc'. I dont know why he came this morning. I closed the door and walked away from it. Their child was at our house one unscheduled night because she feel too sick and moving a sick child wasnt in the kiddos best interest (her dad works in healthcare) so it seems like a no brainer. I did enable her too though, so it's not totally her fault. I tried to stay calm but in the end he said "stay away from me" and walked away. Tries to get back with his ex while wooing you. Granted, I made a few mistakes with our interaction last night, but hey, I was caught way off guard. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Been there done that. I dont even do that to my own mother . toughlove1993 When my ex cheated on me I dropped her like a stone, I was hurt but I repressed my emotions and I didn't vent out my anger to her until she got back in contact with me 2 years later. We recently filed charges against my ex for harassment etc. Who knows though. And this is torture. He showed up to my house unannounced the next day to repeat what we had already discussed. We're looking for new mods! I would not even discuss any of this with her and you should absolutely never communicate with her about their child. Even though I've been dating and enjoying the company of other women for the last month or so, my ex still has some control over me. I don't know what she wants and apparently no one else does, including her. Showing up at ex house unannounced If you ever loved your ex boyfriend/girlfriend and want to get him/her back then this book recommendation can be your ticket to restore what was lost. Both of us have been involved with other people, yet she still came running back to my apartment for whatever reason. It seems like he is testing himself to see how his emotions will be when he meets you. The conclusion was a no contact order and 2 Started Thursday at 10:00 PM, By ._1sDtEhccxFpHDn2RUhxmSq{font-family:Noto Sans,Arial,sans-serif;font-size:14px;font-weight:400;line-height:18px;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-flow:row nowrap;flex-flow:row nowrap}._1d4NeAxWOiy0JPz7aXRI64{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText)}.icon._3tMM22A0evCEmrIk-8z4zO{margin:-2px 8px 0 0} I can parent and am not accountable to you. Is he interested or did I misunderstand the situation.. TikTok mom who got 'dumped' while pregnant shares how Tinder date became her fianc. These visits always Are these power games still being played? I thought it was pretty funny! I know you love him and I know how painful it can be for you when you just want to be with him but right now you need to work on yourself and leave him to come to you. Some of my closest friends had told me the same stuff about her and they've never steered me wrong. After facing criticism for her behavior, she posted a photo appearing to double down on the decision. He is acting just like I did, completely irrationally and confused. All this after 4 months. Im really worried about him. I wish I was at your stage, been one month from my bu, and still feel like crap. ._12xlue8dQ1odPw1J81FIGQ{display:inline-block;vertical-align:middle} Showing up to a class I'm not enrolled in, Showing up to class as a 3L with a job offer, Showing up in ACUs to your civilian DUI hearing. Not as much though, so getting better. He was married, but intending to leave his wife. Started Friday at 07:51 AM, By I don't know here like you do. If he contacts you again, talk over the phone. 9 days later and as of last night we are officially back together and trying this thing again. I ended up texting her this morning and here was the interaction: Me: Honestly, I have no idea why you came or what to believe but after all of that last night, I just can't leave it like that. ._3oeM4kc-2-4z-A0RTQLg0I{display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-pack:justify;justify-content:space-between} We also have a lot of downvoting on the sub, with every post and every comment recieving at least one downvote almost immediately due to the anti-stepparent lurkers. She made references to it a few different times and I told her that it wasn't her business. As of now we live on an emotional connection between the two weeks later the same school and doesn't make me reconsider our relationship, with out him. Because it certainly isn't because he's making you happy. Even if the claims arent too serious, you may not find about an investigation until a CPSsocial worker arrives. It just tough for me to figure out because I don't even think she has any idea what she wants. 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